ImageThis photo is of my husband and myself in FL last year.

One of my challenges was to “Share on your blog a photo or word art that you have created that testifies of God’s greatness.” –

I use this photo of my husband and I because we have been through so much in our marriage that it was only God who brought us from where we were. Through out the first 9 years of our marriage I cheated on him yet he stayed with me. He prayed to God to save our marriage day after day even though we were not “Christians”. Neither of us were born again believers but because of his background with Christian school and church he knew that only God could save our marriage.

On 09-09-09 my husband and I walked hand in hand down the isle and asked Jesus into our hearts and lives to save us and make us new again. He did and now almost 5 years later we are more in love then we were when we married almost 13 years ago.

God has given me a new since of love for my husband, a new respect for who he is, and a new image of myself with my husband.

I share this because of how Great our God is.





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I have recently been faced with a challenge by someone in my family. I have had my Christian character questioned. I have been told that I believe I am better than everyone else. I have had a lot of words thrown at me that are not true. So to that I am writing this.
I am a Christian who has and will choose Jesus over anything and anyone. He is the one who was there for me when no one else would or could. He is the one who brought me out of the darkness of adultery, drunkenness, drugs, suicide, mental captivity, illusions, and so much more. He is the only one who ever could do that. For that I am truly grateful and I own my life to Him. No matter what anyone else says or thinks I have surrendered my life to Him.

Now with that being said I do not expect those of you who are not in my shoes to understand. I do not expect you to be happy with my choice or even agree with it.
I do however want to explain a few things to you. First off Jesus is my number one no matter what. Second My husband comes before everyone else and then my children. When I married my husband (yes we were living in sin but that is our past not our future) I chose to obey God’s word when He tells us in Genesis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Although this speaks to the husband I believe we take and should take it both ways.
While I understand this is only one verse in the Bible I have to also look at Matthew 19:5-6  and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” This was spoken by Jesus himself when He was in Judea speaking to the Pharisees about divorce. He wanted to recall what God had told man in the beginning.
Now what is meant by this? Well this means we are to leave our mothers and fathers. We are to support our spouse and (in my case) obey or summit to my husband. This means that I am no longer under the idea “I have to listen to mommy and daddy” because I live my own life and create my own family.

Jesus told us 1 Corinthians 13: 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. Now that I have been married for 13 years, have a soon to be teenage girl and a 9 year old boy I believe I need to put away my child like behavior. With that I mean, I now must put everything aside and take care of my own family. I don’t not follow commands that way a child should follow commands. Take for instants the 5th commandment which says “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you. according to Exodus 20:12. I believe while I was under the financially authority of my parents this commandment meant something much different. It meant that I must listen to what they wanted for my life as long as if did not go outside of the word of God. (While growing up in my household nothing was inside the word of God.) Anyway, now that I am married, a mother of my own and supporting my own children I believe this means that I shift my energy more to obeying and honoring my Heavenly Father.
As I looked up the word honor I found that it means many different things such as “high respect” or “a privilege” it even means to “regard with great respect” and lastly I found that it means to “fulfill (an obligation) or keep (an agreement). I believe as an adult I do need to continue to honor my parents but they too need to honor me as a follow adult. They need to understand that there will be choices and decisions I must make that they may not like or understand.
I also believe that when I made a life style change many people were not on board with my new life and that is ok but with this new life comes new things that I feel I must do. If you don’t like it nor understand it then that is fine but do not come to me and make me out to be someone I am not. They are many things that I can no longer do and being around certain behavior is also something that I cannot do. Solomon told us in Proverbs 16:17 The highway of the upright avoids evil; those who guard their ways preserve their lives. So there are things I must avoid to stay on the path God has planned for me.

In Philippians chapter 2 verse 3 I am also instructed to Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, While many believe this means I must come to their beckon call or jump when they say jump or even drop everything to please them, to me this means I am not to think of myself as better than anyone else. Not the president, the Pastors, my boss, the owner of a company, a movie star, my brother, my sister, my husband, my children, a rock star, a homeless man, a cab driver, a waitress, a janitor, a prisoner, or a king. I am a child of God because HE created me (Genesis 1:27). He breathed breath into me (Genesis 2:7), He formed me (Jeremiah 1:5)He is the only one who is above anyone else.

I love ALL my family but I will not compromise for no one, I will not bend my believes nor will I allow you or anyone else to still by joy. John 10:10 says The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. So I say satan get thee behind me because I am God’s and you cannot have me.



As a wife I have some expectation of my husband as any women would. Also, I’m sure my husband has some expectations of my as well. But what I have found out is that I have very high expectations of my husband. Let me show you why.

Here are the top 5 expectations I have:

1-      I expect that he can read my mind.

2-      I expect that he can just hear my voice and know when I’m in pain.

3-      I expect that he should put me first above all else.

4-      I expect him to be able to say just one word and take all my hurt away.

5-      I expect him to put his “needs” aside because I don’t feel good.


When all the while I am expecting him to hold me when I need that touch, carry me when life is just too much, love me when I don’t even love myself and save me when I screw everything up. 

In other words expect him to be my Jesus.

I look to my husband as some god that I have placed on a pedal stool. I have made him to be someone he cannot be. I ask way too much of him and when he cannot deliver I become disappointed in him as if he could ever live up to my expectations anyway.

Deep down I know he cannot be nor do what I need from Jesus yet I still place him in Jesus spot as if he could. I get mad at him when his “needs” come up because I am in pain and he “should know this” because you know… I never said a word.

I find myself seeking my husband over Jesus.

I find myself looking to him for all the answers.

I find myself seeking his approval

I have found myself so lost because he cannot give me what I need….without Jesus.

My favorite verse is Matthew 6:33

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

I find myself taking the word his out and replacing it with Joey.  I become so discombobulated with life because I have not put Jesus first. I have done what Matthew has instructed up to do.

Ladies, I’m talking to me as well, we must find ourselves in Jesus before we find ourselves in our husbands arms because if we don’t than we may find that we no longer have a marriage that is honoring to God our heavenly father.


Dear Father above, I pray special for everyone reading this today. I pray that they are filled with some much joy from your words you have given me. I pray that they not only find this of great help but also that they apply it to their own marriage. Father help give us the power to turn our lives over to you, the strength to give up the control and the wisdom to know when we are looking to our husbands for that affirmation that only you are able to provide. Father I asked all this in Jesus name. Amen.